Reaching out and asking him how he would like to be involved could be the perfect way to find a meaningful way to include him.
Couples often complain that their days are so over-scheduled that their attention gets pulled from one thing to the next. The last thing they want is to talk to a partner whose nose is in his cell phone.
Above all, the bride and her attendants should discuss the costs, expectations and budget openly so that there are no surprises.
Happy couples don't always make "I-statements" or start every argument with a gratitude. They don't feel Fourth-of-July-fireworks each and every time they make love -- nor do they expect to.