We know that the future is filled with uncertainty. Regardless, we still want that promise because it gives us courage to give ourselves to another without reservations.
There's no guidebook on how to love someone, but that doesn't mean we stop loving.
One night I was sitting with my kids whilst they were watching TV, and in part as a joke and something to dream of, I wrote out a "shopping list" of what I wanted in a husband. I asked the kids to call out a few things so I could add them to the list. Then I folded it up and put it away, without thinking about it again.
As a therapist, I can teach a couple how to communicate in an hour. It's not complicated. But dealing with the troublemakers who started the fight? Well, that takes a lifetime.